The Ugly:
Having been a single mom for almost 16 years now, I can honestly say that the older dating scene fully qualifies as the
ugly! I don't think I am being too picky when one of the only qualities I
require in a future husband is HONESTY. So why has it been impossible to meet even one single man over the age of 35 with this trait?! The past couple of years, I have been lied to about schedules (yes, he had a date with someone else but couldn't let me know!), lied to about religious beliefs (telling me that you believe in God is NOT a good idea if you don't; I will notice!), lied to about number of divorces (um, yeah, it will eventually have to come out- lying up front will NOT make your past life change!), and of course, have heard the old 'you are so wonderful, beautiful, etc just because he wants the type of relationship I will NOT be giving away... Plus there was the whole, he broke into my house when I was out of town fiasco of this summer! ('Good' reason for it notwithstanding, did you really have to steal my house key and then lie about all of it AFTER you got caught?! Makes me wonder what would have happened with that whole situation if I hadn't found the fingerprints above the window to prove it!- Yes, even in this Heavenly Father has blessed me greatly!) Anyway, after all of this, am I really ready to try again? Can I really and truly believe the next man? Or will he at least be able to tell me the truth, warts and all, knowing that honesty is my number one requirement for whoever the future holds?! I sure hope so!
More UGLY (be warned this one made me want to scream...)
Here is a sample of the message I received this morning (after a text telling me how worried he is, etc.) from a man I have only been communicating with for a week- and haven't even met!:
"
Hello Darling,
How are you doing? Thanks so much for your lovely message and thanks for your concern so far. I want you to know that i have not been happy all day, I have been very sad and worried. I got a call from the bank this morning and they informed me that the transfer of my money was stopped by their federal ministry of finance, They said they the reason why they stopped the transfer is because i am supposed to get the Foreign Exchange Approval Certificate before the transfer of my money will be completed. I was so sad when i got the news, I immediately called the lawyer they assisted me get the court approvals and he told me that he will be able to help me get the Foreign Exchange Approval Certificate but he said its going to cost me $23,000.00 and he assured me that once he gets the certificate for me, the bank will immediately complete the transfer and the money will get to my account.
All i have left with here is $15,000 so i immediately called few of my friends and two of they offered to loan me $3000 each, they both sent me the money 2hours ago and i have the total of $21,000 right now but i will still need about $2000 to be able to complete the money to pay for the certificate, I have been calling friends all day to see how i can raise the remaining $2000 but no luck, I did not want to bug you with my problems but i have been thinking and decided to confide in you,I want to ask you for just this favor honey, I will really appreciate it if you can loan me the $2000 so that i can complete the money to pay for the certificate, I promise you that i will pay you back immediately i get back home. I am so confused with now and i really can't wait to get this done and have my mind at rest. I swear to you that i will pay you back once i get back home, If you will love to help me,let me know so i can direct you on how to wire the money to me here.
I want you to know that i really do care about you..." |
You get the idea. Does he (or I guess it could be a she) REALLY TRULY think I am that STUPID?!!! Obviously the answer is, yes. SO grateful to my father that he didn't raise that stupid of a girl! But honestly, where is the honesty?! I want to laugh, scream and cry all at the same time! (So if anyone out there wonders what they can get me for Christmas this year: just asking for proof that an honest unmarried male over the age of 35 actually exists! - oh, and heterosexual would be nice too!)
The bad:
This is a pic of the shell/body of 'the bad'. The plan had been to put the engine from Charly's car (the one she had wrecked) into the shell of this car. It so could have worked! I had a friend who worked so hard and did so well in making it happen until, that is, he wasn't sure how to do something. Instead of figuring out how something came apart, he cut the wires- all looks like at least 50 of them! It was a fatal error of the worst kind because it was made by someone who meant well. Then instead of finding a way to make it right, packed up and left me with this in my drive and pieces of engine, etc. in my garage... still hoping and praying that I can recover at least the money for the one car- will never recover any from Charly's...
And the washing machine is still quite broken- anyone know of any good deals on one?
Now, lest you think that my life is at all bad in and of itself... stay tuned for the Good parts later this week!
